John Kinde is on of my Las Vegas friends and humor mentors. He often entertains my speaking schools audiences. This is one of his recent posts on his Humor Power blog.

You can read some more of his advice on my website in humor articles.

If you’re mainly looking for a bunch of jokes, skip this article. However, if you’re interested in a deeper look at the principles and psychology of creating humor, read on.

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Mark Dery sent me the entire article from his interview in 1985.

However, I enjoyed his modern day comment…
“Incidentally, Mr Fripp’s moonlighting as a motivational speaker makes perfect sense. In my years in the golden ghetto of rock journalism, I interviewed scores of musicians, most of whom impressed me as barely articulate creatures of very little brain, dull as a doorknob and culturally illiterate about anything but music. Mr. Fripp was a striking departure from that dreary norm, preternaturally articulate, with an omnivorous mind and a dry, nimble wit. Which was why I always lept at the opportunity to interview him.”

Best, M. Dery

Thanks Mark!

Robert Fripp: The 21st Century Man Sounds Off
Mark Dery, Record Magazine, November 1985

HE BEGAN, by his own admission, tone deaf and with “no sense of rhythm.” He is a spit-shined, manicured man whose “best subjects at school were always English literature and English language.” He is guitarist Robert Fripp, and would seem more at home beating the pants off an Oxford dean at Trivial Pursuit than laying down the febrile, ostinato runs that are his sonic signature.

There’s always been a bit of Mr. Chips lurking behind the man who brought us ’21st Century Schizoid Man’, ‘Starless and Bible Black’, ‘Lark’s Tongues in Aspic’ and other rock anomalies. In fact, Fripp the pundit seems to have taken the driver’s seat these days. Fripp the blistering axemaster, whose brain child King Crimson played mix ‘n’ match, shake ‘n’ stir with jazz noodlings, Romantic Classicism, pan-ethnic snippets, and a liberal dose of snarling, unshaven metal guitar from 1969-1974, seems somewhat overshadowed. “What am I actually doing at the moment?” Fripp asks. “Teaching guitar in West Virginia at the American School for Continuous Education, at Claymont, near Charlestown.” The Society is an educational charity of which Fripp was elected President after a retreat in the woodland nook during the last three months of ’84.

Initially finagled into giving the odd guitar seminar, Fripp has committed himself wholeheartedly. “I’ve had five seminars so far, 91 students. They come for five-and-a-half or six-and-a-half days; we live and work together intensively on what is called guitarcraft.” The course incorporates manual exercises formulated by a 13-year-old Fripp, who even then realized that plectrum players, unlike classical violinists or cellists, had no real methodology to guide their first, fumbling steps. “Relaxation, attention and sensitivity” are also stressed, qualities that Fripp has described elsewhere as the “three disciplines: of the hands, the head, and the heart.” In cahoots with fellow instructor Bob Gerber, Fripp lectures on “systematics of performance,” with forays into yogic theory and visual perception exercises.

Participants have averaged in number from 16-21 per course, and ensemble classes alternate with one-on-one daily instruction from Fripp. Graduates are logged in a “League of Crafty Guitarists” Directory which networks them within a geographical grid to aid and abet future collaborations. An added guitarcraft attraction is Fripp’s revised standard tuning for the guitar, intended to replace the extant E-A-D-G-B-E tuning. “It’s better for beginners, better for advanced players, better for single lines, better for chords, it’s better,” asserts Fripp. “It wasn’t ‘a brighter idea from Robert’ – it presented itself while I was sweating in the sauna of the Aqua Health Spa on Thompson and Bleecker.” Asked to reveal the revolutionary tuning, Fripp flashes a vulpine grin, pauses for an imaginary drumroll, and coyly announces that he’ll go public all in good time. Fretboard neophytes who can’t wait may want to pack their gig bags and mosey southward, first dropping a line to Robert Fripp/Guitarcraft Seminars, c/o A.S.C.E., Route 1, Box 279, Charlestown, W. Va., 25414, (304) 725-4437.

Although Fripp the academician has stolen the spotlight, Fripp the fretboard banshee is still close at hand in the wings – or more appropriately, in the orchestra pit. Recent vinyl ventures include what a Jem Records release (with tongue tucked firmly in cheek) calls “specially remixed and strategically repackaged” versions of material originally cut for Britain’s Polydor and since gone out of print.

Exposure, first released in 1979 after Fripp scuttled King Crimson for the mothballed Ironsides it had become (“When King Crimson finished in ’74,” Fripp once noted in a New York Times interview, “it was the last possible moment for anything to have stopped.”), reappears in a digitally souped-up incarnation. “One or two vocal lines are slightly different,” Fripp remarks, adding that the digital remix “…is infinitely better…not so much hiss; it’s remarkable how much our expectations of equipment have changed.”

God Save The King also resurrects earlier LPs, stripping and refinishing doodads from Under Heavy Manners/God Save The Queen – Fripp’s 1980 amalgam of beat-crazy rave-ups and lighter-than-air lead loops – and a later disc, The League of Gentlemen (1981), which married the unlikely bedfellows of slam-dunk skinhead thrash and Fripp’s own brand of oh-so-cybernetic dentist’s drill soloing. “I’ve taken the material which I thought was worth keeping and changed it quite substantially,” Fripp points out, “the mixing is vastly different, (and) I added a guitar solo to ‘God Save The Queen’ (the ‘Zero of Signified’ in formerlife.)” While re-releasing a record for the sake of some knob-twiddling and a little overdubbed fretwork may seem like much ado about nothing, this is no meat-and-potatoes playing. ‘God Save The King’ is 13 minutes and eleven seconds of guitar pyrotechnics so scorching the man must’ve been wearing a welder’s mask and playing with an asbestos pick. Gutsy, gritty, this is music with canines, the kind of soloing that raises hackles and makes Dobermans howl.

A slightly truncated version (6:40) of the same song pops up on Network, the third in this series, a 12″ mini-LP that pits Fripp’s lyrical, mellifluous side mano a mano against his gnarly, warts-and-all side. Eno lends sighing synth on ‘North Star’, Peter Gabriel guest vocals on the Ice Age ballad ‘Here Comes The Flood’ (both culled from Exposure) and head Head David Byrne contributes knock-kneed, hopped-up vocals to ‘Under Heavy Manners’ (excerpted from God Save The Queen). Fripp gives this sampler his stamp of approval, calling it, “music that I can personally listen to at any time of day or night.” By his own assessment, the material “stands up remarkably well, doesn’t sound dated to me.”

Other pots on Fripp’s many burners include The Noise and Three of a Perfect Pair, concert videos recorded, respectively, in Frejus, France (1982) and Tokyo, Japan (1984) with the reincarnated Crimson – Adrian Belew (guitar/vocals), Tony Levin (bass/Chapman Stick), Bill Bruford (Kit drums/Electronic’ percussion), and, of course, Fripp. Fripp judges the French gig “quite a good show” but admits he “wasn’t awfully happy” with the Japanese concert, which lacked the Crimson kineticism that separates the 21st Century Schizoid men from the boys.

Borrowing from a seemingly inexhaustible font of creative juice, Fripp is also slated to hook up again with the vocal group the Roches for a “Roche, Roche, Fripp and Roche” serving of Christmas songs.
Production chores entail overseeing an album of the piano pieces of Gurdjieff and Thomas De Hartmann by New York pianist Elan Sicroff.

Additionally, Fripp sat in on ex-Japan lead singer David Sylvian’s recent solo LP, The Holy Blood of Saints and Sheep, an acid test for the new tuning he now uses exclusively. His rustiness with it, he laughingly recalls, resulted in “flurries of bum notes” in spots, but he found Sylvian’s record “beautiful music,” and “was very pleased to have the opportunity to play on it.”

And as if that weren’t enough, Fripp has donated his talents to the worthy cause of a fund-raiser to bail out the ailing Childrens’ School in Claymont, near the guitarcraft center. English songstress/actress Toyah has been recruited to read Frank Stockton’s The Lady or The Tiger and to co-compose the backing music with Fripp. Likewise, durable crony Brian Eno has agreed to read a Stockton story, and add his two cents to the accompanying soundtrack. Fripp comments enthusiastically: “Eno and I work together well; the old chemistry is still there…fire!”

Taking a critical gander at his recent output, Fripp singles out the E.G. remixes of his solo catalogue for critique. “It’s interesting to see how much of it stands up today. Not all of it…some of it’s a little dated; so-called art rock from the early 70s…sounds very, very weary now and completely out of place.” About-facing, he is quick to add, however, that “because a particular piece of music characterizes the spirit of its time doesn’t mean it doesn’t stand up; it can still be valid today…furniture from the 1920s, for example, is stylized, but some of it reflects its time and still has a quality which persists through time. The problem is if there isn’t that quality present.” And what is this quintessential quality? Fripp ponders a minute; the sound of gears grinding and cogs turning is almost audible. “It’s where the ordinary punter walks into the club, there’s a band playing, and he knows something is going on. It will have a certain specific vocabulary, the sound of particular forms of organization, but the quality will be eternal. Whether Orlando Gibbons excites you, Japanese Koto classics make you foam at the mouth, Hendrix bites your bippy or the Sex Pistols had you on your feet gobbing, whatever it is, you know you’re alive for that moment.”

It is precisely this evanescent, effervescent quality that Fripp has been pursuing throughout his career, a dangling carrot he is fond of referring to as “the capacity to re-experience one’s innocence.” In his article “Creativity; Finding The Source,” he wistfully imagined it as “the kind of thing that keeps a musician working in poor conditions for years in the hope that whatever magic turned a routine gig into a memorable event might one day return.”

And in these pages a year ago, Fripp spoke longingly of a significant brush with the same cathartic spark in that “remarkable year” of 1969, when King Crimson was steamrolling all preconceptions of what was pop, razing the icons and salting the ploughed rubble: “After that, it was a question of: magic has just flown by, how does one find conditions in which magic flies by? I’d experienced it – I knew it was real. So where had it gone, how could one entice it back? That’s been the process from then till now.”

“Now” finds a certain “small, intelligent, highly mobile unit” (Fripp’s eponym) at a crossroads of sorts, his solo discography spruced up and refueled, his band idling in the driveway. “King Crimson is a way of doing things,” he muses, “I think the band in 1981 – certainly in the second half of the year – was the best performing rock band in the world. After that, it ceased to be a group as much as a collection of individuals.” Whither now? “I have no idea. We’re all in touch. I have no specific plans – you don’t plan King Crimson.”

The ’85 model is a Fripp in flux. “I view myself as…somehow undefined. What I set out do with intention was to find a way of combining the European tonal harmonic tradition with the Afro-American experience – what would Hendrix sound like playing the Bartok String Quartets? Larks’ Tongues in Aspic, ’21st Century Schizoid Man’ were all part of this. Then after about 1977, it all changed; everyone became more aware of so-called ethnic musics. The extent of forms of organization that were available to the practicing musician extended. If your work happens to be in the marketplace, in the field of popular culture, then an archaic vocabulary is of little use. You speak to people in the language which is current. And that’s where I’ve seen my work go.”

A close contender for rock’s Most Likely To Be Misunderstood slot, Fripp is seen by many as a tin woodsman with a microtonal heart, a professorial presence noted for blasts of bombast, a well-heeled, dapper demeanor, and a thin-lipped insistence on linguistic exactitude.

In some senses, he is a “Schizoid Man” of his own making, confessing that “I see Robert Fripp as a creature that I inhabit.” He can toss off poignant tearjerkers like ‘Mary’ (Exposure) and on the same record, ear-blistering headbangers like ‘Disengage’. He is a man of heavy mannerisms and much metaphor, at once serious and profoundly silly. The founding father of progressive rock, he cut the die for punk; his toxic, caustic guitar calisthenics on Eno’s ‘Baby’s on Fire’ (Here Come The Warm Jets) remain prototypical. His sinuous, ethereal Frippertronics have graced mainstream tracks by the likes of Daryl Hall, Blondie, Bowie and Andy Summers as well as underground efforts by Eno, Centipede and other artists. He can be archly ascetic, claiming that his momentous discovery of recent memory was the unearthing of “a very, very academic Hungarian music textbook,” the name of which “I’m not going to tell you.” At the same time, for all his finger-wagging pedantry, Fripp pursues his lone alchemy “…just so life is right, that’s all; when you hit a note and it’s right, you don’t need any more. You’re there with the note.” He is, like the narrative voice in ‘Under Heavy Manners’, “resplendent in divergence,” at the least. Trapping the mercuric Fripp in a definition that will stick, even one of his own making, is like trying to drive a thumbtack through a blob of quicksilver:
Q: In your article, “Creativity: Finding The Source,” you painted Hendrix and Charlie Parker as part of a metaphorical priesthood. Do you consider yourself a clergyman in that same sense?
A: More of a monk.
Q: In what sense?
A: That’s the answer.
© Mark Dery, 1985
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If you are familiar with my blog or speaking you realize my brother Robert Fripp often is part of my speaking schools and keynote events. Most recently at the American Payroll Association Congress.

Here is something I picked up in my google alerts! Now you can see why he makes a good speaker.

Robert Fripp: The 21st Century Man Sounds Off
Mark Dery, Record Magazine, November 1985

HE BEGAN, by his own admission, tone deaf and with “no sense of rhythm.” He is a spit-shined, manicured man whose “best subjects at school were always English literature and English language.” He is guitarist Robert Fripp, and would seem more at home beating the pants off an Oxford dean at Trivial Pursuit than laying down the febrile, ostinato runs that are his sonic signature.

If you want to hear Robert Fripp’s spoken word concerts …

Notes from Robert Fripp at APA.

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Today’s meeting of the National Speakers Association of Georgia was full of celebrity speakers. My program was “How to go from Good to Great to Awesome.”

My World Champions Edge partner Mark Brown came as a guest presenter. Rich Hart, the smart program chair put Mark on the program. He spoke about 2 secret speaking weapons. Adjectives and adverbs. Mark is the 1995 Toastmasters International World Champion.

The much loved and funny June Cline has moved to Arizona and was back on in Atlanta on family business.

Ken Futch had family in town, however when they went sight seeing he came to support Fripp and NSA. Check out his website. He is the only person I know who shot himself in the head, lived and turned it into a rip roaring, hilarious speech that audiences love and corporations pay big bucks to hear.

The audience and I were thrilled to see famous humorist and comedy teacher Jeff Justice. He just came back from a family vacation and did not let jet lag keep him away!

Jeff invested in my learning materials…at the end of this message you can see him handing over his credit card! On his content-rich and fun website he offers plenty of content and free jokes.

Clean Jokes To Go … from Jeff Justice. Why not sign up for his newsletter?    www.jeffjustice.com/humorlettersignup.htm

God is Missing
A couple had two little boys, ages 8 and 10, who were excessively mischievous.
The two were always getting into trouble and their parents could be assured
that if any mischief occurred in their town their two young sons were in some
way involved. The parents were at their wits end as to what to do about their
sons’ behavior.

The mother had heard that a clergyman in town had been successful in
disciplining children in the past, so she asked her husband if he thought they
should send the boys to speak with the clergyman.

The husband said, “We might as well. We need to do something before I really
lose my temper!”

The clergyman agreed to speak with the boys, but asked to see them
individually. The 8-year-old went to meet with him first.

The clergyman sat the boy down and asked him sternly, “Where is God?”
The boy made no response, so the clergyman repeated the question in
an even sterner tone, “Where is God?” Again the boy made no attempt to
answer, so the clergyman raised his voice even more and shook his finger
in the boy’s face, “WHERE IS GOD?”

At that the boy bolted from the room and ran directly home slamming himself
in his closet. His older brother followed him into the closet and said, “What
happened?” The younger brother replied, “We are in BIG trouble this time.
God is missing and they think we did it!”

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An example of Robert Fripp’s “Attributed” Charisma

(See the previous 2 THE Executive Speech Coach posts)

At the American Payroll Association’s Congress Pay Heroes we were lucky to have APA’s First Husband Patrick Obertin as our moderator and introducer. Over the years we have become friends. In 1969 Patrick bought In The Court of The Crimson King. He would be the first to admit he enjoys the “Attributed” Charisma of being involved in Robert Fripp’s session. We enjoyed the “Attributed” Charisma of his APA status helping us.

As part of our session “How to Be a Hero for More Than One Day” Patrick told the story of how he met and “rescued” his wife Linda Obertin APA’s 2009-10 APA President.

Enjoy the photos of the Fripp’s thanking Patrick, Patricia Fripp and Patrick, Patricia Fripp and Patrick and Linda at the Super Hero party.

Dan Maddux and his APA team know how to run a convention!

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On Tuesday, May 25 at the American Payroll Association’s 28th Congress in Washington DC, my brother Robert Fripp joined me in a session called How to Be a Hero for More Than One Day: Position Yourself for Promotion. As this years theme was Pay Heroes, and Robert played on David Bowie’s Heroes album it was a good idea and well received. We think of our heroes as having Charisma. However, very few of us think about charisma the way Robert Fripp does!

Charisma

I

Two Definitions / Descriptions

Charisma is the energy that makes possible the impossible.
Charisma is the energy that enables an act of quality.

II

Seven Views Of Charisma

1. Owned.

The charismatic owns the charisma they possess. The person is charismatic. They possess their charisma.

2. Loaned.

Charisma descends upon the ordinary person; i.e. they are possessed, or inhabited, by the Muse.

E.g. Men & Women of Destiny who are not, in & of themselves, charismatic but have a particular & necessary function to discharge;
the power of the Office;
fulfilling a role in a necessary undertaking.

3. Attributed.

Celebrity. The aura of charisma comes with high levels of media attention.

The juice is attributed; rather than owned, loaned, earned or borrowed.

4. Distributed.

This is the juice that flows within a network.

The energy in the network develops synergistically & is available to the members of the group.

In a group of four, there is one quartet & four trios.
In a group of six, there are fifteen quartets and twenty trios.

5. Acquired. Four forms: bought, begged, borrowed & stolen.

i) The juice is earned. This is the hard work school of heroism: no charisma, just ongoingness on a daily basis to develop a discipline or practice.

Bach:  “I was obliged to be industrious.”
Haydn: “I … always composed with deliberation & industry.”
Graham Greene: “I have no talent. It is a question of working hard, being willing to put in the time.”

This juice is bought, paid for by putting in the work & putting in the time.

It can sometimes be seen in an ordinary person who has just completed an honorable piece of work: they shine.

ii) An appeal for help. There are people who are gifted, perhaps in healing, who are able to transfer juice to us. Begged.

One example: prayer.

iii) Borrowed. There are exercises where we can obtain the juice needed for a particular piece of work; perhaps by breathing the air around someone who has personal merit or their own charisma.

iv) Stolen: legitimate & illegitimate forms.

a) Conscious theft: where we intentionally take from a pool or reservoir of energy, e.g. from sacred sites, to make possible an otherwise impossible task. This is in the knowledge that when we die, nothing that is not our own will be taken from me.

b) Energy vampires. We feel less when this person leaves our presence, taking our life away with them: some people can suck us dry; e.g. by a constant demand for attention.

6. Specific & Situational.

i) Response to challenge: a Person of the Moment.

From time to time, in exceptional circumstances, the event requires that someone step forward & take charge. This person becomes transformed into a saving angel of that moment.

ii) Shock: often a personal disaster, that releases & unfixes who & what we are.

7. Invisible: this is measured by the effect one has on others. In the others, this is an enabling charisma.

Often, the originator is unknown to the world.

III

Personal charisma is not a reliable power: that is, its presence cannot be guaranteed.

I have known people with charisma whose light has dimmed; I have known the hard-working with discipline & no charisma who move to the front.

So, better for the person with charisma that they develop a personal discipline.
Better for the person without charisma to develop a personal discipline.

Discipline confers effectuality in time. The presence of charisma may not be reliable, repeatable & responsible.

But we may be able to hold ourselves reliably, repeatably & responsibly in place & available to when the Muse descends.

If you would like to hear samples of Robert Fripp speaking

Want to learn to be a better public speaker? Patricia Fripp and Darren LaCroix  hold a coaching camp Friday-Sunday, June 25-27, 2010 at the Flamingo Hotel in Las Vegas. Home of the amazing Donny & Marie show. Having watched it three times they have Charisma!

Talking of charisma…Dan Maddux, the Executive Director of the American Payroll Association is a Super Hero (watch for the next post on the 3 types of heroes

Bob, Pat, Dan 2010 apa

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A “news clipping” on Robert Fripp, my brother, legendary guitarist, and guest speaker at The American Payroll
Association’s Congress this week in Washington DC.

“When Microsoft was developing the Vista operating system, the company
brought in former King Crimson guitarist Robert Fripp who recorded,
according to an internal Microsoft blog, ‘six hours of multi-channel raw
tracks including hundreds of melodies, textures, soundscapes, and
orchestrations’

After three months of ‘iteration, remixing, and
refinement’ a four-second snippet was chosen as the final Windows Vista start-up sound: melody by Fripp,
harmony by longtime Fripp collaborator and Seattle guitarist Steve Ball,
and a ‘Win-dows Vis-ta’ rhythm by Tucker Martine, a Grammy-nominated
musician/producer who has worked with R.E.M., Spoon, and Mudhoney.”

This was excerpted from the article on Minyanville.com: “Who Created the Windows Start-Up Sound? Hint: It wasn’t Bill Gates” by
Justin
Rohrlich

May 25, 2010 11:20 am. Enjoy the complete article here: http://www.minyanville.com/businessmarkets/articles/intel-microsoft-research-in-motion-apple/5/25/2010/id/28465?camp=syndication&medium=portals&from=yahoo

Robert FrippAs much as my brother Robert Fripp is internationally-known for his
brilliance with
the guitar… he is a superb and entertaining speaker. Brother Robert
and I are in Washington DC speaking to the American Payroll
Association’s Congress.

If you would like to learn more about
engaging Robert Fripp to speak at your event visit:
http://robertfrippspeaks.com

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As much as my brother Robert Fripp is internationally-known for his brilliance with
the guitar… he is a superb and entertaining speaker. Brother Robert and I are in Washington DC speaking to the American Payroll Association’s Congress.  Enjoy:

This week Brother Robert and I are speaking to the American Payroll Association’s Congress.  Their theme is Pay Heroes. The opening speaker is Charlie Plumb. Charlie is an amazing speaker who talks about
his experiences in Vietnam. He does not consider himself a hero although everyone who hears his story would.
Adam West with his Batmobile will be there. Adam’s speech is “Not all Heroes Wear Tights.”
On Tuesday I have three sessions. The first is “Basic Speaking Skills,” then Robert and I are speaking about
“Position Yourself for Promotion: How to Be a Hero for More Than One Day.”
The third session with Brother making a guest appearance is “Advanced Presentation Skills.”

If you would like to learn more about engaging Robert Fripp to speak at your event visit:
http://robertfrippspeaks.com

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Terry Brock interviews Mingling Maven Susan RoAne

Technology expert Terry Brock leads the way. Here he is taking advantage of being with Susan RoAne when she was speaking in Orlando.

Have an Extra Edge at Networking Events –

Best Selling Author and THE Executive Speech Coach Shows You How to Network
by Patricia Fripp, CSP, CPAE

We all attend events promoted as the perfect format to make new contacts and develop potential business relationships. I never stop being amazed how many talented and well-educated people often do not know how to maximize these events.

Here are two easy ways you can make the most of networking events.

1. "TRAVEL WITH YOUR OWN PR AGENT" TECHNIQUE.

It's simple and cost free. Enlist a co-sales professional, friend, or fellow speaker to form a duo. My networking buddy in San Francisco is Susan RoAne, the best-selling author of How to Work A Room, Secrets of Savvy Networking, and What Do I Say Next? We attend many meetings together.

Here's what we do. When we arrive at an event, we alternately separate and come together. I'll walk up to Susan as she is talking to someone, and she'll say, "Larry, let me introduce you to Patricia Fripp. Patricia is truly one of the greatest speakers in the country." And, I will turn around and say, "Larry, I bet Susan is too modest to tell you she's the best-selling author of three books."

When you do this, just as RoAne and I do, you're saying great things about each other that you'd love your prospects to know, but modesty prevents you from telling them.

Suppose Natalie and Fred are secret partners. As Fred walks up, Natalie says to the person she's been talking to, "Jack, I'd like you to meet Fred. Fred has taught me nearly everything I know about sales and our product line. There has never been a sales contest in our company he hasn't won." Then, Fred can say, "Well, Natalie's being very generous. It's true; I've been with our company for sixteen years. But, Natalie's been here for only six months, and she's brought in more new business than any other person in the fifty-three year history of our firm, so she knows a couple of things too. I tell you, you couldn't do better than work with someone as enthusiastic as Natalie."

2. IF YOU ARE SHY VOLUNTEER YOURSELF A GREETER.

Much of the value of meetings can be lost if you are retiring or fundamentally shy. For many people, mingling with a room full of strangers can be an unpleasant or even scary experience. Seventy percent of the population rates themselves as at least "situationally shy," says Susan RoAne in her networking books.

I encourage you to focus on all those exciting new people and messages instead of the butterflies in your stomach offer to take a job that requires interacting with other attendees. For instance, when you wear a name tag with a ribbon that says "Greeter" you can issue name tags, sign up people for work shops, or just direct traffic: "How do you do? I'm Chris Carter. Nice to meet you. Name-tags are here. Food is there. How do you do? I'm Chris Carter. Nice to meet you." Soon you've met many new people and will get cheery nods of recognition throughout the event, making them more responsive and at ease.

A BONUS THOUGHT ABOUT CONNECTING

The key to connection is conversation. The secret of conversation is to ask questions. The quality of the information you receive depends on the quality of your questions. If you have a conversation it may lead to a relationship. A relationship could lead to new business. A business relationship when nurtured can and will lead to long term success.

SO WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR????

Put on your 'Sunday best' and go meet some new people!!!

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