Remember how exciting it was when you first fell in love?
Your heart somersaulted every time you met the one you loved. The two of you sat up talking all night and never ran out of something to say. You always seemed to have so much energy. The thrill of falling in love is wonderful.
Soon enough, reality set in, and you had to start working to make the relationship succeed. That’s good, of course. It’s how you truly grow to know and love the other person.
In many ways, a new job is like a love affair.
Fall in love with your career
The first stage is excitement, which can last from an hour to many years. You think, “This job will pay me more money than I’ve ever earned. The clients will be wonderful to deal with. I will expand my knowledge and enjoy exciting experiences.” The novelty of the job keeps your energy high. You are happy because you feel productive and are satisfied with contributing to your team.
Then, the second stage, reality, sets in.
You still enjoy your work; however, you begin to notice some of the irritants and difficulties. Deadlines seem endless and impossible. It becomes harder to arrive early or stay late. You used to love the comradery; now it seems an effort to go in three days a week. The novelty starts to wear off. And, like love, your job has a third stage, too…disillusion.
Long before the world shifted to remote work, I championed the effectiveness of virtual meetings for coaching and training top professionals. The goal is simple: connect deeply and persuasively with your audience, no matter where they are.
Here’s how you can enhance your virtual engagement:
Set the Stage: Always ensure your background is neat and professional—this frames your environment and professional image.
Visibility Matters: Activate your webcam! Make eye contact by smiling directly into the camera, crafting what I call “energetic intimacy.”
Stay Hydrated, Stay Refined: It’s natural to need a sip of water during discussions. However, opt for a more elegant solution than a bulky water bottle. My top suggestion? Use a straw! It’s not just about avoiding awkward angles (nobody wants the “up-the-nose” view). It’s about maintaining poise and professionalism without interruption.
In the crowded arena of professional speaking, standing out is not just about having a message; it’s about having the right strategies to deliver it and the savviness to market it.
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In the realm of professional presentations, capturing your audience’s attention from the first few seconds is our goal. According to my speaking philosophy, the initial moments of your presentation are crucial to arouse interest and set the tone for what’s to come. It’s about making your audience sit up and think, “This is going to be good.”
As a proud member of both the National Speakers Association and the Professional Speechwriters Association, I’ve had the privilege of studying numerous speeches by leading figures across various fields. It’s evident that even formal presentations, which often carry the weight of significant messages, don’t have to start in a yawn-inducing manner.
Consider a shift in approach: imagine bypassing the usual introductory formalities and diving straight into a vivid, thought-provoking phrase. For instance, without mentioning who is the speaker or speechwriter…
“Thank you, Dan, and good morning, Ladies and Gentlemen. It is always a pleasure to be back in Houston, particularly as …” Later in the speech, I read, “Many of us have been saying the world has been trying to transition in fog, without a compass, on the road to nowhere.” This not only grabs attention, but it immediately sets a tone of relevance and urgency. Why not begin there? Then, if you have to add pleasantries, do it after your dramatic opening.
Earlier in my speaking career when I was often hired to speak at Spouse Programs at conventions, my speech was called, “Clean Out the Closets of Your Life.” The premise was, we can relate to cleaning out the garage and attic. How about the people, habits, and thoughts that could well be interfering with where you want to go? Remember, this was decades before the world became familiar with the decluttering philosophies of Marie Kondo.
Sorry, not for me. I live alone in a good size house. British people love looking at their treasures, and I certainly do. Many came from my parents, and I smile and feel loved being around them.
If you walked into my dressing room, which would be the master bedroom for normal people, you would see an entire room just for my clothes, hats, shoes, bags, gloves, and jewelry. If Saks runs out of merch, they can shop in my closet. They all fit and look good. One of my pleasures is to look through my clothes to discover how to take an item I have not worn in a while and create a new look.
“Once Upon a Time.” This phrase is not just an introduction to a fairy tale.
It is a gateway into the rich tapestry that comprises our lives. It marks the inception of a journey where values, experiences, and influences interweave to define who we are. A valuable approach to find our authentic voices and identities. My personal once upon a time has profoundly shaped my professional ethos and methodology.
Once upon a time…
Raised in a quaint town in Southern England, my early years were framed by societal norms with few expectations for girls. Contrary to these norms, the visions and wisdom imparted by my parents planted the seeds of ambition and resilience in me.
The Once Upon a Time Technique
In my practice, I introduce clients to the once-upon-a-time technique at the outset. I prompt them to journey back to…where were you born? What did your parents do? What advice did they give that shaped who you have become?
Reflecting on my upbringing, I recall a period when societal expectations for girls were low. Yet, within me stirred a longing for a life without these constraints. This yearning was not solitary; my brother, Robert Fripp, and I were nurtured on tales of resilience and the power of words. Our mother recounted stories of World War II, highlighting how Winston Churchill, with his meticulously crafted speeches, could inspire a nation amidst adversity. These were not just bedtime stories; they were lessons on the impact of articulate and powerful communication. Unbeknownst to me, these lessons laid the groundwork for my career, emphasizing the profound influence of well-chosen words. My brother, a musician, is one of the most articulate speakers I have ever listened to.
Craft Your Narrative
Your life experience is a reservoir of unique experiences and insights. By mining you’re once-upon-a-time, you uncover a wealth of content that can enrich your speeches, making them memorable and deeply authentic. This technique is not just about storytelling; it’s a journey to understanding the essence of your communicative power. Your unique experiences will resonate with others and foster a connection that transcends the conventional speaker-audience dynamic.
For example, when discussing strategy, I asked my client, “When was the first time he realized the importance of strategy?” “When I was a 14-year-old ball boy before the French Open…”
Another question is, “How do you describe corporate citizenship to your children?” “It was the day after Christmas and I sat both of my children down…”
Another “When did you become passionate about statistics?” “In college. Our professor was a new PhD and we were his first class. When he began telling us…”
Great ideas come from questions.
Another piece of advice I give my clients who need to inspire and motivate their associates is, “They will respect your title. They will fight in the streets when they see the person behind the position.”
As you embark on this exploration, remember that every experience, no matter how trivial it may seem, holds the potential to inspire, influence, and ignite change. Your once upon a time is not just your history; it’s the bedrock of your unique voice and perspective.
What is deeply personal is also universal.
“Thank you for making this the best presentation ever. For decades of teaching and coaching, which has been incorporated into my leadership style and presence. You are a gift to the world, especially to the APA and the thousands of lives you have touched. We are blessed to have you in our lives and do not take your generosity for granted!” – Linda Obertin, CPP, Senior Director, Human Resources, Global Payroll Lead, Hilton
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My brother, internationally acclaimed rock guitarist Robert Fripp, talks about performances.
“A principle is universal, a rule is inflexible, a law is invariable. Music so wishes to be heard that sometimes it calls on unlikely characters to give it voice, and to give it ears. This wishing-to-be heard calls into existence the Performance Event: where music, musician, and audience may come together as one, in communion.
Robert Fripp Speaks
This communion has six different forms of being and experiencing itself; and these forms, or principles, are simultaneously present within the Performance.
The first three are:
When people get together with music, something happens.
In a performance: things come together, mysteriously; and go better than we might anticipate; and better than we deserve.
A performance can take on a life and character of its own.”
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Recently, I had the pleasure of joining Derek Arden’s Monday Night Live chat show for his fourth-anniversary show.
Derek asked us all to give five ideas in five minutes. Alongside my esteemed colleagues Tim Durkin, Tracy Hooper, and Will Kintish, we embarked on a mission to distil our wisdom into five-minute nuggets. However, in a twist that would make a Hollywood scriptwriter proud, we opted for depth over breadth, each sharing a singular idea adorned with multiple examples.
The Power of No
The always gracious Tracy gave us elegant ways and words to handle those who inappropriately interrupted us.
Will, with a twinkle in his eye, shared his philosophy on the strategic deployment of “no” (grandchildren and dogs being the notable exceptions).
Like many of us, Tim Durkin receives multiple requests for advice, speeches, and contributions of time to local organizations, and he reminded us it’s tempting, almost reflexive, to say “yes.” But here’s the twist—every “yes” is a ticket to a hidden tax, a concept Tim brilliantly dubbed the “Yes Tax.” It’s the fine print that turns a simple nod into a marathon of unintended commitments.
This conversation was a delightful reminder of a principle I’ve championed when I used to teach Time Management: the sacred value of your time.
The Power of “No, and Yes”
In business, our time is as valuable as our contacts. How often have you said “yes” when you really wanted to say “no”? It may have seemed the most efficient, popular, or expedient choice at that moment…yet was often regretted afterward.
You don’t need to make any excuses for refusing a business proposal or social invitation. “No, thank you for asking, but I already have plans.” What you don’t have to explain is that your plans are with yourself.
Fortunately, there’s a way to say “no” and “yes” at the same time: Refuse the request, and offer an alternative that works for you and benefits the petitioner as well.
It has always been part of my overall marketing strategy to be well-known in my community. Business contacts and worthy causes often ask me to volunteer my time. Here’s how I handle it.
An organization asked me to run a luncheon once a month for their volunteers. I said, “No, because I’m frequently out of town. Here’s what I CAN do. Once a year I’ll give a free talk to rev up your volunteers. I’ll be donating a talent that most of your other members don’t have.” I was saying “yes” and “no” at the same time: “no” to the original request and “yes” to supporting the organization. No doubt they did not feel they could ask me for a free speech!
My pal Debbi Steele, an expert in hotel sales, faced a barrage of lunch invitations from those eager to peek behind the curtain of hotel sales. Her solution? A resolute “no” to lunch, with a side of creativity—either join her for a sunrise jog or spend an afternoon in the trenches of her office. The message? “No” doesn’t mean the end; it’s just a different beginning.
The Litmus Test Before “Yes”
Before your “yes” escapes into the wild, pause and ponder:
Is this endeavor something that sparks joy, or will it spark dread?
What’s in it for me? Will there be personal growth, or just personal grief?
Is this a now-or-never opportunity, or will it circle back?
Time is currency; how much am I willing to invest?
Am I the chosen one because of my unique talents, or because I’m known as the person who can’t say “no”?
If the answers leave you less than thrilled, it’s time to embrace “No, thank you, I already have plans.”
Embrace the “No” to Amplify Your “Yes”
In the grand tapestry of life and work, saying “no” is not just about guarding your time; it’s about making room for the “yeses” that truly matter. It’s about contributing in ways that leverage your unique strengths and passions.
So, the next time you’re cornered by a request that doesn’t light you up, remember: “no” is not just a word; it’s a strategy. Adopt the art of saying “no,” and you’ll find the freedom to say “yes” to what truly counts.
“Patricia, you saved the day! I was summoned on rather short notice to speak as a keynote speaker for our corporate annual sales conference. My task was to relate technical details to a non-technical audience. Lucky for me, a week in advance I found FrippVT online learning. I worked tirelessly devouring the FrippVT content most evenings until 2 a.m. to perform at the highest level possible.
Can you imagine my excitement to walk off stage and hear, ‘You stole the show,’ ‘Are you a professional speaker?’ and ‘The audience was hanging onto your every word.’
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