At a time when every customer counts we must never forget how our customers see us. One single negative contact can ruin your reputation in the eyes of not only that one customer — but everyone he or she knows as well. After all, word of mouth works both for or against you.

You need to make sure everybody in your organization knows he or she is an important part of it. Each department depends and dovetails into the other to produce quality in service or product. Everyone makes a difference: the sales force, the service technicians, the clerical staff, the PR department all work together toward the same goal — keeping the customers satisfied.

A perfect example of how everyone makes a difference is when I was in a Nashville hotel attending a board of directors meeting for the National Speakers Association. After the meeting, several of us went to the coffee shop to continue our deliberations. Each of us asked for exceptions or additions to the menu items; we wanted separate checks; and to make things even more confusing, being speakers, we talked to each other the whole time the waitress patiently took our orders.

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In a conversation with Kim Snider, brilliant financial adviser from Dallas, she mentioned,” On February 18, 2009, the WSJ asked eminent economists, including some Nobel Prize Winners, “How do you think Americans should spend their $8 a week of stimulus money to have the biggest impact?”

Robert Shiller, of Yale, summed up many of their answers. “You give a good tip to the taxi drivers. They talk to their customers all day – business people. If you don’t take taxis, tip your hairdresser.These people shape perception.”

So do we all in our communities and with our clients. Kim is a Shaper of Perceptions. I like that! If you want to share your opinons in a way that has impact you may want a little help. Yes, that's right!
A plug for my June 29-30 Speaking School in Las Vegas.

 

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Open Hot, Close HotterPatricia Fripp Good to Great

 

 

As an executive speech coach and public speaking trainer for executives and professional motivational speakers, here is some of the advice I give. To grab audience attention and be remembered and repeated, start the presentation with a bang, not a limp, “Thanks, it’s nice to be here.” The first (and last) 30 seconds have the most impact on the audience. Save any greetings and gratitude until they’ve already grabbed the audience with a powerful opening. And don’t end with a whimper. Remember that last words linger. Unfortunately, many speakers close with, “Are there any questions?” Wrong! Instead, say, “Before I close, what are your questions?” Answer them. Then close on a high note. Always look at your opening remarks to see if you can tie it together in a circular way. When I addressed the American Cemetery Association my opening story was about when my mother died. Don’t worry! It was upbeat. Mother had a great life and lived long enough to see both her children successful. My opening line was, “What do you say about a woman who wanted everyone to wear bright red at her funeral?” The close was my brother’s experience when she died. He wrote about it on the liner notes of a CD called “Tears of Angels.” “Life is what we are given, Life is what we do with it…………….”

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In case you want some interesting trivia for your next cocktail party,  my brother Robert Fripp told me.

In England there are 120-130 million birds. There are also 5-8 million cats. Each year British cats kill 50-80 million birds. Not sure how you will slip it into the conversation. It will impress any of your British friends or fans of King Crimson and legendary guitarist Robert Fripp. AKA Brother!

Robert & Patricia Fripp
Artist Joseph Staton created this painting of my brother.

 

 

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How you can attract, retain and extend your relationship with customers.

by Patricia Fripp, CSP, CPAE

Frippicisms on Sales and Marketing strategy

• It is not your client’s job to remember you, it is your obligation and responsibility to make sure they don’t forget you.
• The real sale comes after the sale.
• Your best customer is the hottest prospect for your competitors.
• Your efforts have to be ongoing and consistent.

I’m always taken aback when someone asks me how much time I devote to marketing. Every single thing we do is marketing. Talking to strangers at seminars or group meetings or even in elevators or taxis is marketing. Customer service is part of marketing. I am an unabashed, relentless, promoter of my services and products. I get the drive from the love I have for my business.

Here are a few suggestions on how you can attract, retain and extend your relationship with customers.

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My brother Robert Fripp and his wife Toyah Willcox are performing for the President of Estonia as part of their celebration of their independence.patricia and robert

Meanwhile I am in Milwaukee speaking with Heartland Advisers. Great company! They were recognized in August 2008 as a “Top Milwaukee Workplace” by The Business Journal…and their 50 employees.

As part of my presentation I quoted my brother’s comments about heroes. He played on David Bowie’s Heroes. As you can read my brother has quite a way with words! This is an excerpt from our spoken word concerts. Enjoy!

Being A Hero

PF David Bowie sang: We can be heroes – just for one day.
RF So, if we can be heroes – just for one day – can we be heroes for longer than that? And if we can’t be a hero for all of one day, can we be a hero for 10 minutes? Or an hour?

RF What does it mean to be a hero?

The hero aspires to three things:

the clarity to see what is required of them;
the courage to accept what is required of them;
the capacity to discharge what is required of them.

Three categories of hero:

the occasional, or unlikely, hero;
the everyday, or ordinary, hero;
the superhero.

The occasional (or unlikely) hero is one who responds honorably to an unlikely & unexpected event: they rise to an occasion; they rise to a challenge when it presents itself.

The everyday, ordinary hero is reliably, repeatably & responsibly heroic
on a daily basis . They are proficient & sufficient.
The world continues to run because of them. Although this category of hero is described as ordinary, such heroism is already extraordinary.

The superhero is one who directs the way the world runs.
They hold the overview of their particular field of endeavor.
They see the whole of an undertaking, or corporation. They see the operation of all departments, on all floors, in all the offices of the corporation.
The effects & repercussions of their decision-making, initiatives & actions extend in time & in space.

The everyday hero, and the superhero,
bring a degree of quality to what they do, an ongoing level of care,
on a regular basis.
These heroes do-what-they-can-do + 10% on a daily basis.

These heroes manifest acts of quality, regularly.

PF How do we become a hero?
RF By practicing acts of heroism!

How do we describe or define the characteristics of heroic behavior?
Heroes undertake, manifest & demonstrate acts of quality on a regular basis.
Two key points: quality, regularity.

RF what is an act of quality?

An act of quality follows the injunction:

Honor necessity, honor sufficiency.

Honor necessity is the Rule of Quality.
Honor sufficiency is the Rule of Quantity.

When we honor necessity, we address what is required of us;
not what we want to do,
neither following an arbitrary impulse,

When we honor sufficiency, we use no more energy is
employed than is needed to discharge the particular function.
Effortless effort. Gracefulness. Callisthenic.

PF Why is an act of quality important?
RF Quality is ungovernable by number.

So, a small act of quality is as big as a large act of quality.

In the New Testament, the parable of the Widow’s Mite is one example of this. The Widow gave what, in the World of Number, was about as small a contribution as could be measured & accounted. In the World of Quality, the Widow gave all that she had. The Widow was a hero.

An act of quality spreads.
The repercussions from an act of quality move outwards from the originating act.
Although we may never see the effects & repercussions of a quality undertaking, we may have faith that an act of quality spreads & moves out into the world.Pat & Robert
Our prime concern is the quality of our undertaking, not the effects of the undertaking.

For more information on Robert check out his spoken word concerts.
Go out and perform acts of quality.
If you want to speak in a clear, concise, compelling manner just like Robert Fripp
check out my June 29-30, 2009 Las Vegas Speaking School.

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All For One“Great relationships start with great conversations, not one person showing the other how smart he or she is.”

I have fond memories of being locked in my executive speech coach studio with a brilliant gentleman helping her turn his good presentation into a business developing masterpiece. He is Andrew Sobel author of “Clients for Life” and “Making Rain”. His new book is called “All for One: 10 Strategies for Building Trusted Client Partnerships”

Whenever I hear Andrew has written a new book I recommend it…even before I read it. That is how confident I am in his research an ability to connect with his readers.

“All for One” is based on five years of research, including a study of 50 major, flagship client relationships built by a variety of leading services firms. Think of it as moving from trusted advisor to trusted partner.

You can check it out on his website at https://andrewsobel.com/books/all-for-one/

For a short time he is also offering to anyone who buys a copy of “All for One” the choice of three free, seriously valuable gifts, including a brand new copy of one of his previous books.

“Great relationships start with great conversations, not one person showing the other how smart he or she is.”

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The latest clever comments from my brother Robert Fripp.Patricia & Robert
In strange and uncertain times such as these we live in perhaps this will help.

Skepticism is a virtue, but risks becoming cynicism.
Cynicism is a vice.

Faith is a virtue, but risks becoming belief.
This is a weakness.

May we hold skepticism close;
may Faith hold us closer.

But let us not belittle the beliefs of others,
for although beliefs are legion they may lead to faith.

And Faith is one.Pat & Robert

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Jacqueline Male, Commercial Director, Top Sales Associates wrote Patricia Fripp’s “What Hollywood Taught Me” details now appear on Top 10 Sales Articles including links back to both your site, and the publishing site.

You will also notice that we have a public poll, which allows our readers to select their favorit nomination – votes account for 50% of the overall score, the other 50% is provided by our panel of sales experts.”

WHAT HOLLYWOOD TAUGHT ME: 7 WAYS TO BECOME A STAR

Speaking techniques we can learn from Hollywood!

By Patricia Fripp, CSP, CPAE

The sultry blonde looked deep into the executive’s eyes, her voice throbbing with emotion. “I know you don’t know me,” she said, “but you must trust me. We don’t have much time. You need to do everything that I tell you. You’re not very experienced, but I’ve been doing this a long time. I am your new best friend.”

The couple spent the next four hours in a locked room. Their activities included role-playing and changing positions. “That was so good!” she’d cry. “Do it again! Even better. Try it standing up.”

Finally the door opened, and the executive emerged, exhausted but smiling. “I’ve been Fripped,” he told his friends, “and I can’t wait to do it again!”

This is how I open my speech called “How to Add Hollywood to Your Presentation.” The premise is: if you want to be a better speaker, go to the movies!

Why? Imagine that you have unlimited resources to design a keynote that will make you the hottest commodity on the market? Where would you go to get the best, highest-priced writers and directors in the world?

Hollywood!

In Hollywood, you’ll find hundreds of talented people, both in front of and behind the camera, all working together to create one money-making movie. The bad news is that you probably don’t have unlimited resources to hire all those people. The good news is you can still use seven basic Hollywood techniques to increase the impact of your presentation.

1. START WITH A FLAVOR SCENE

In David Freeman’s Screenwriting Seminar, he specifies sixteen ways to make the first three pages of a script “kick ass.” If they don’t, producers don’t read the rest of the script. If they don’t read it, they don’t buy it and they don’t make your movie.

Good movies often open with a “flavor scene,” grabbing attention and positioning the audience for what is to come. Relate the first three pages of a movie script to the first thirty seconds of your speech. Your flavor scene doesn’t necessarily have to lead where the audience expects it to, but it should make an impact and it must tie in to what follows. (Where do you think my sultry blonde story is going?)

2. USE SCENE CHANGES

Early in each movie, the hero or heroine commits to some course of action. Rocky Balboa agrees to fight Apollo Creed. Elle Woods of Legally Blonde resolves to go to Harvard. The sooner this happens, the sooner the audience gets emotionally involved.

Next, the lead character licks one challenge and runs smack into another. This involves scene changes. The movie literally moves from point to point, maintaining interest by changing settings, focal points, emotions, and energy levels.

The biggest enemy of a speaker, no matter how good, is “sameness” or lack of variety. Each time you move from story to story or example to example, this is a scene change. Use variety to keep your audience interested. Sadly, I’ve watched attractive, dynamic, articulate speakers go down in flames because the same energy level was used throughout. Their “scenes” never change.

3. TELL HOLLYWOOD STORIES

What makes a good Hollywood movie? Exactly the same thing that makes a good keynote speech–a great story! Screenwriter Robert McKee says, “Stories are the creative conversion of life itself into a more powerful, clearer, more meaningful experience.” We all love stories because, unlike real life, they have a purpose, a beginning-middle-end, and a punch line.

Start by identifying your main theme or purpose–your plot–and any subplots. For example, a Gap executive I’ll call “John” had just an hour and 20 minutes to work with me on an important speech. He was recently promoted and now was speaking for eight minutes to 500 young store managers. His topic was a program to get employees to contribute money-saving ideas. His subtext was “I deserved to get this promotion.”

In 8 minutes, he had to excite support for the money-saving program. If he did it well and inspired every Gap manager to go back to inspire all their employees, the impact could be incredible.

(Seventy-five minutes left of our coaching session.) “You’re going to do exactly what I tell you,” I said. “First, never say ‘good morning.’ It’s boring, it’s obvious, and the previous speakers have already said it. Walk on stage, look at the audience, and say, ‘We are here to talk about heroes.’ In seven words, you’ve just proved that this is not another dull, corporate speech.

“‘We are here to talk about heroes,’ you say, ‘Gap heroes. They may be sitting behind you. They may be sitting in front of you. They may be you.'”

I asked John to tell me a story about someone who had saved the company money. Do you know what he showed me? Statistics! “Statistics aren’t sexy,” I told him. “Numbers are numbing. Where’s the made-for-television movie?” He had no idea. So we phoned the Accounting Department and got a story. (Sixty minutes to go.)

One young man in the shipping department had noticed that seven Gap newsletters to the same location were going out in separate packets. This mail room hero thought, “Why don’t I pack them together with a note asking that they be distributed on the other end?” This worked well, so he urged his colleagues to question similar duplications. “Look, guys,” he told them, “we own stock in the Gap, not Fed-Ex!” His idea saved the Gap $200,000 that year.

Whenever you tell a story, be ready to answer the audience’s next question. In John’s case, his audience would be wondering, ‘What did the Gap do with that $200,000?'” So we researched some answers: “$200,000 is 18 miles of shelving. It’s carrying an additional jean size. It’s a month of ‘The Gap rocks’ commercials.” (Forty minutes to go in our session.)

To close, John would challenge his audience: “As Gap employees, you have good ideas all the time. Do you write them up and get them in the process so they can be evaluated? Or do you say, ‘What’s in it for me?'” This is where John would talk about cash rewards. (Thirty minutes to go.) John rehearsed his eight-minute speech, polishing, tightening, and adding more energy with each run-through, until he could do it without notes. (Time’s up!)

We ended by playing David Bowie’s Heroes which tied the opening into the close in a perfect circle.

4. CREATE CAPTIVATING CHARACTERS

Comedy impresario John Cantu knows that speakers mustn’t be the heroes of all their stories. Together, we analyzed one of his speeches and found sixty-two different characters! Learn from Hollywood. Fill your stage with other exciting performers, real and imaginary.

What does Hollywood do to make characters even more alive? In Analyze This, Robert De Niro is a bad guy who kills people. Yet, in the end, he gets only a few months in prison. Why? Because he is likable. How can you like a killer? Because Hollywood builds in the “likability factor.” The audience ends up pulling for him, despite his flaws.

If Hollywood techniques can make audiences like a vicious killer, surely the same techniques can get them on your side too. Build this likability into your characters. Start by identifying the values, needs, and wants of your audience. Then tell them about characters who also share them.

My audience at the Governor’s Conference for the State of Maryland was made up of government employees. Like their counterparts in corporate America, many were feeling under-appreciated. “The best thing about performance excellence on the job,” I said, “is that you take it home, and it affects your family life.

“One of my friends is an everyday hero like yourself.” And I told them about Bobby Lewis, a proud father who took his two boys to play miniature golf. ‘How much?’ he asked the ticket taker.

‘$3 for adults and for any kid older than six.  Free for kids younger than six.”

“Well, Mikey is three and Jimmy is seven, so here’s $6.”

“Hey, mister,” the attendant sneered. “You like throwing your money away? You could have told me the big one was only six. I wouldn’t have known the difference.”

“Yes,” Bobby replied, “but my children would have known the difference.”

And the 2000 people in that audience broke into spontaneous applause. Why? Because that simple story, told with dialogue and a dramatic lesson learned, represented their values: that it’s not what you say you believe that counts. It’s what you model, encourage, reward, and let happen. Did I know they were going to applaud? No. Did I wait and let them enjoy it? Yes.

Here’s a homework assignment: Count how many characters appear in your speeches. They are what makes a Hollywood production–flesh and blood personalities that the audience can relate to.

5. CONSTRUCT VIVID DIALOGUE

Notice the conversation I described above between my friend Bobby Lewis and the ticket seller. Your stories come alive when you can use actual dialogue between your characters.

6. PROVIDE A LESSON LEARNED

Legendary Hollywood producer Sam Goldwyn said, “If I want to send a message, I’ll use a telegram.” Yet, all great films–and speeches–have a message. Some recent movies go on and on with explosions and car chases. They’re exciting, but at the end, the audience is left with a big “so what?”

However, when action and thrills serve a compelling story and finish up with a heart-tugging or eye-opening conclusion, we’re talking unforgettable Oscar winners. Ingrid Bergman leaves Bogart and gets on the plane with Paul Henreid in Casablanca because honor comes before love in wartime. Dietrich abandons her rich lover Adolphe Menjou in Morocco and follows Gary Cooper barefoot into the desert because love comes before money. And Harrison Ford, Jimmy Stewart, Jim Carey, Julia Roberts, and Tom Hanks struggle against huge odds because it’s better to lose than never to try.

The funniest or most exhilarating story will be pointless if you don’t tie it into your theme and provide a lesson learned.

7. EXPLORE COLLABORATING

Collaboration is mandatory in Hollywood, and it can work for speakers too. I often brainstorm with copywriting genius David Garfinkel and John Cantu, the San Francisco comedy legend. At one session, John was just out of the hospital after serious cancer surgery. We asked him to describe his experiences. In a few minutes, we were laughing so hard that I ran and got a tape recorder. “Start over,” I said.

As he talked, David Garfinkel kept adding dramatic effects, and I pointed out key lines of dialogue. When John finished, we had the foundation for a speech called, “Laughing All the Way to the Hospital.” It was full of human interest, funny and poignant.

Our collaboration was so exciting that we transcribed the tape and turned the experience into a National Speakers Association seminar. We built a set on stage, replicating my living room with hotel furniture. Then we re-enacted the whole thing, freezing the action every now and then so moderator Janelle Barlow could point out what we were doing. It was an incredible learning experience.

BACK TO THE SULTRY BLONDE

As you may have guessed, the sultry blonde at the beginning of this article was me. The executive was a former engineer who wanted to give an inspiring kick-off speech. His staff gave me the assignment to make him look “presidential.”

“Everyone sees you as ethical,” I said. “Tell me about your parents and where this honesty came from.” Then I asked him about his early achievements.

“When I was seven,” he told me, “I was on a water polo team. I was a good team player, but they decided I had leadership potential and put me on the fast track for the Olympics.”

“Tell your audience about this,” I said, “because it shows you have been training to be their leader since you were seven.” He recounted other exciting experiences: competing (and losing) in Mexico City, then training with other U.S. athletes in Russia where he attended a sports banquet. “They kept making toasts with vodka, and my roommate didn’t know you should just pretended to drink it. He ended up drunk, running up and down the hotel hallway in polka dot shorts and cowboy boots, pretending to be a bull.”

He told me about his other life achievements. “And why did you join this company?” I asked. The former engineer told me about all the opportunities he envisioned. “I want you to walk to the ‘power position’ in the center of the room,” I said, “and start by saying, ‘If I were you, I’d be wondering who this guy is and where he is taking the company. Before I tell you where we’re going, let me tell you where I came from.’

“Then you do two sentences about your parents. “Tell about when you were seven and about Mexico City. Tell the Russian story from the perspective of the Russian hotel maid. Imagine how you would have felt, seeing your first American, and he’s a nearly naked, buff, eighteen-year-old who thinks he’s a bull. Then talk about why you joined the company, the upgraded headquarters and new products. Tell them, ‘Now, it’s time to upgrade the workforce — you!’ Explain how this is going to happen and what they are going to do.

At the end of our four hours, the executive had gone through his speech twice, and we’d taped it. “Listen to the tape until you know it nearly by heart.” Ten days later he gave his speech with no notes. He was breathtaking.

So if this man, a former engineer who wasn’t an experienced speaker, could use Hollywood principles after one afternoon of being Fripped, imagine what you can do.

Identify the story you want to tell, populate it with flesh and blood characters, add stimulating dialogue, and provide a dramatic lesson learned. That’s Hollywood! See you at the movies.

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Robert Fripp and sister Patricia Fripp taking a box after a Hollywood performance at the American Payroll Association 2008.

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Joel Panzer invited me to be the first woman member of GGBC and introduced me for my speech on April 1. Joel Panzer & Patricia Fripp

My friend and associate Carol Fleming has a business in San Francisco called The Sound of Your Voice.
She is working on what will one day be a valuable book for leadership presentations. You may be interested in a tiny sneak preview. This is on “Becoming Well-Spoken”

Very important for leadership presentations and to improve speaking skills.

Being well-spoken sounds pretty good, doesn’t it? It puts us in a certain class of people who appear to be polished and verbally competent, fluent, gracious, and proper. We all want to be well-spoken, because we know that:
1. we judge people by the way they speak, and
2. that they are doing the same thing and
3. we want to make a good impression.

To be well-spoken is to be:
1.  Articulate – which means speech that’s well formed, clear, and sounds like we mean what we say.  It also implies an extensive vocabulary that’s appropriate to the situation. The words people use carry information about their intelligence, social-economic background, and educational level. The specificity of your vocabulary reveals the distinctions your mind is capable of making. This is why a vocabulary test is a part of al most every intelligence test and why you care about it so much.

2.  Fluent – having words come to you easily and flow effortlessly. There are few extraneous words, sounds or comments (e.g., ahhh, o.k, ya know) that get in the way of straightforward communication. You sense that thought has preceded speaking. Sentences are also well shaped for sharing of meaning involved, and a consideration of the person being spoken to and a respect for the time of all concerned.

3.   Courteous –  there’s also a world of courtesy beyond “please” and “thank you” in human discourse that makes a person seem polished. The person with gracious manners is displaying respect and sensitivity to others. Are you just expressing your self without consideration of the impact on others? Is it possible that you are abrupt? Do you monopolize the conversation? You would probably prefer to be characterized as kind and considerate in your communication style. This is – and can – be learned by starting to notice the social conduct that marks the gracious person.

If you want to learn more about preparing and presenting powerul speeches and presentations, leadership presentations and to improve speaking skills
check out the Patricia Fripp Las Vegas Speaking School June 29 and June 30.

My friend financial adviser has been a long time friend, client and running partner. We walked and had breakfast this morning. He attended my speech.

Fripp & Friend

 

 

 

 

 

 

Carol was one of a group of friends who came to hear me speak at the Golden Gate Breakfast Club.

We were all members of the sister club The Continental Breakfast Club.

sister club The Continental Breakfast Club.

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