Elevate Your Language and Stand Out in Every Conversation

On most Sundays, you will find me sipping coffee and watching my favorite news shows. I enjoy listening to intelligent and educated experts share their perspectives on the state of the world. As an executive speech coach, I find these programs an endless source of inspiration—and, occasionally, frustration.

One recurring irritant? The phrase I hear far too often: “Thanks for having me.” It’s a common go-to for experts, executives, and politicians when introduced on panels, in interviews, or during fireside chats. While polite, it’s not exactly memorable or precise.

As a presentation coach, I help my clients—from seasoned speakers to rising executives—find ways to stand out in similar settings. A crucial part is teaching them to use language that conveys their professionalism and expertise. It’s a simple change that can significantly affect how they are perceived.

Why the Words You Choose Matter

How you begin speaking sets the tone for your presence in the room—whether that room is a boardroom, a panel, or a broadcast interview. Starting with a generic “Thanks for having me” can be polite but forgettable. Instead, by choosing a more specific and thoughtful response, you show appreciation and subtly reinforce your expertise and the value you bring.

Here are some alternatives I recommend to my clients. Consider how these might work for you the next time you’re in the spotlight:

“Thank you for the invitation to join you.” This phrase shows appreciation for the opportunity while acknowledging the invitation itself.

“I appreciate the opportunity to be part of the discussion.” It suggests you value the dialogue and are ready to contribute meaningfully.

“Thank you for your interest in my experience.” This highlights that your presence results from your expertise and others’ interest in your perspective.

“I’m grateful for the opportunity to share my insights.” It conveys humility while emphasizing that you have valuable perspectives to offer.

“Thank you for extending the invitation to participate.” This is particularly effective when joining more formal or high-stakes discussions, reflecting the event’s significance.

“I appreciate the privilege of being a part of this discussion.” This phrase adds a sense of sincerity, making you feel genuinely honored to contribute.

“I’m excited to be included in today’s conversation.” It is a classic, respectful phrase that works well when you want to strike a more serious tone.

“Thank you for considering me for this valuable exchange.” This alternative shows you recognize the importance of the conversation and your role in it.

A Memorable Introduction Sets the Stage

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These responses are not only courteous and professional, they add a personal touch that sets you apart. The goal is to be remembered—not just for what you say, but for how you say it. This simple shift in your language can help you establish a stronger connection with your audience, whether it’s on a news show, at a client or partner conference, or even during an internal meeting.

Remember, every word counts. Choosing your opening carefully sets the stage for how you’ll be perceived throughout the conversation. Next time you’re preparing for an interview or a panel discussion, try these alternatives. You might be surprised at the difference they make!

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“I wanted a Super Bowl quality coach. Patricia Fripp’s help in coaching and scripting was world-class. With Fripp on your team, you can go places.” Don Yaeger, Long-Time Associate Editor for Sports

 

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Behind the Scenes with a Presidential Speechwriter: Insights from Terry Szuplat

Recently, at the Professional Speechwriters World Conference, I had the pleasure of attending a half-day seminar delivered by Terry Szuplat, author of Say It Well: Find Your Voice, Speak Your Mind, Inspire Any Audience. As a speechwriter for President Obama, Terry brought a wealth of experience and an insider’s perspective that was both fascinating and inspiring. The session was a masterclass in storytelling, precision, and the art of delivering a truly resonating message.

A Glimpse into the Presidential Process

One of the highlights of Terry’s seminar was the use of video clips showing President Obama delivering some of the speeches we were discussing. It’s educational to hear about the techniques that make a speech effective, and it’s even better when we see them in action, particularly from a speaker as gifted as President Obama. The clips brought Terry’s advice to life, showing how a well-crafted message can create a powerful connection with the audience.

Terry also walked us through the rigorous process of preparing each of these speeches. He shared insights into what the speechwriting team did before, during, and after a presentation, shedding light on the extensive preparation required for even a single address. It was exciting to hear about the behind-the-scenes collaboration and the level of care that went into every word.

Active Involvement: Obama’s Hands-On Approach

One aspect that stood out during the seminar was President Obama’s active involvement in the speechwriting process. Terry shared visuals of the notes the President added to their drafts, showcasing how deeply he engaged with the content. Obama didn’t just read what was handed him—he refined, adjusted, and personalized the message. This approach ensured that every speech felt authentic to his voice.

Terry revealed that Obama also considered himself a better speechwriter than his speechwriting team, and the team graciously agreed. While the President certainly had a natural gift for speechwriting, the collaboration with his team allowed him to balance his demanding schedule while still delivering impactful messages. The partnership between Obama and his speechwriters highlighted a key lesson: great speeches are rarely the work of one person—they are the result of thoughtful collaboration and a deep understanding of the audience and the moment.

Key Takeaways: Crafting Memorable Messages

The seminar left me with several valuable lessons that apply to anyone looking to improve their public speaking skills:

Preparation is Everything: Whether addressing a nation or speaking at a team meeting, preparation is critical. The amount of time spent refining drafts, rehearsing, and aligning the message with the audience’s needs cannot be overstated.

Personalization Matters: A speech becomes genuinely memorable when it feels personal. As President Obama’s example showed, taking the time to make a message your own—by adding personal anecdotes, adjusting phrasing, or emphasizing key points—can make all the difference.

Storytelling Elevates the Message: Throughout the seminar, Terry emphasized the power of storytelling. A well-told story can create an emotional connection, making even complex ideas accessible and engaging. I underline this technique with my clients, and seeing it in action through Obama’s speeches reinforced its importance.

Collaboration is Key: Even the best speakers can benefit from a team that understands their style and can help refine their message. Terry’s stories about working with President Obama reminded me that great speechwriting is often collaborative, where different perspectives can strengthen the final product.

A Speech is a Performance: We brainstormed, “What is a speech?” This began with what it is not. You can look forward to another issue on that.

Inspiration for Speechwriters and Speakers Alike

Attending Terry Szuplat’s seminar reminded me of the power of well-chosen words and the impact of thoughtful speechwriting. It was a thrill to hear the stories behind the speeches that shaped significant moments in history and to learn the techniques that made them so effective. Whether you’re a seasoned speaker or just beginning to find your voice, the lessons from this session are a valuable reminder of what it takes to inspire an audience.

It was an experience that reinforced why I love the art of crafting and delivering great speeches and why I’m so passionate about helping others do the same.

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“I wanted a Super Bowl quality coach. Patricia Fripp’s help in coaching and scripting was world-class. With Fripp on your team, you can go places.” Don Yaeger, Long-Time Associate Editor for Sports

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I was once asked for the number one secret of presentation success.

My reply was, “There is no one secret; however if there were, it would be that your subject is of interest to your audience.”

Your relationship with your audience is one of the most critical factors in determining the success of your presentation. Mastering the art of connection will set you apart whether you are addressing 5, 50, or 500 people. Knowing how to build that relationship from the beginning is one secret to speaking confidently and confidently.

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Are you ready to learn how to calm your nerves before your next big presentation?

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First. Master Your Material. Familiarity breeds confidence. Know your topic so well that it feels like a natural part of you. I always tell my clients, “Know your speech so well you can forget it.” In other words, you should be able to open your mouth, and the words fall flawlessly from your lips.

Second. Commit to Rehearsal. As Sir Michael Caine famously said, “Rehearsal is the work. Performance is the relaxation.” Don’t just rehearse alone; get feedback from a trusted friend, mentor, or professional coach. Rehearsing in front of others builds your confidence, helps refine your message, and allows you to receive positive feedback.

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How to Appreciate Your Life Experiences and Transform Your Speeches

When I talk to my executive speech coaching clients, I always say, “Your life experience is a reservoir of unique experiences and insights.”

I love to ask questions that pique my curiosity to help them uncover a treasure trove of content they can weave into their speeches. This approach makes them effective, memorable and authentic.

This isn’t just about storytelling; it’s a journey to understand the true essence of your communicative power. Your unique experiences resonate with others and build connections beyond the usual speaker-audience relationship.

For example, when discussing strategy, I asked my client, “When was the first time you realized the importance of strategy?” He replied, “When I was a 14-year-old ball boy before the French Open…”

Another, I asked, “How do you describe Corporate Citizenship to your children?” The reply was, “It was the day after Christmas, and I sat both of my children down…”

Another, “When did you become passionate about statistics?” I heard, “In college. Our professor was a new PhD, and we were his first class. When he began telling us…”

Another question was, “When did you become determined to be a success?” She said, “I was ten,  sitting at the kitchen table. My 36-year-old father had just died with no insurance. My 29-year-old mother of four had never worked outside of the home. She said, ‘Mary, you will never be in the position of not being able to support yourself and your family…’”

I advise my clients who need to inspire and motivate their associates, “Your audience will respect your title. They will fight in the streets when they see the person behind the position.”

As you embark on your exploration, remember that every experience, no matter how small, has the potential to inspire, influence, and ignite change.  This is an excellent time to look back on your memory.

Let’s make your message memorable, your presentation powerful, and every conversation successful.

Join FrippVT.com, and I will become your personal speech coach.

“I wanted a Super Bowl quality coach. Patricia Fripp’s help in coaching and scripting was world-class. With Fripp on your team, you can go places.” Don Yaeger, Long-Time Associate Editor for Sports

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When you’re up against intense competition, what sets you apart? It’s the story you tell. One that shows how you’ve made a real difference for your clients. These stories—whether you call them examples, case histories, or testimonials—are about your satisfied clients enjoying the benefits of your product or service.

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What the 7-38-55 Rule Really Means

Mehrabian’s research, from which the 7-38-55 Rule is derived, was actually about a particular kind of communication: situations where a person is expressing feelings or attitudes, and there is a mismatch between the verbal message (the words) and the nonverbal cues (tone of voice and facial expressions).

This rule is often summed up as:

7% of communication is through words

38% through tone of voice

55% through facial expressions

However, this research was conducted in a controlled environment. Participants evaluated short phrases expressing emotions, like “I like you” or “I don’t like you,” while the tone and facial expressions were manipulated to create ambiguity.

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