“Once Upon a Time.” This phrase is not just an introduction to a fairy tale.
It is a gateway into the rich tapestry that comprises our lives. It marks the inception of a journey where values, experiences, and influences interweave to define who we are. A valuable approach to find our authentic voices and identities. My personal once upon a time has profoundly shaped my professional ethos and methodology.
Raised in a quaint town in Southern England, my early years were framed by societal norms with few expectations for girls. Contrary to these norms, the visions and wisdom imparted by my parents planted the seeds of ambition and resilience in me.
The Once Upon a Time Technique
In my practice, I introduce clients to the once-upon-a-time technique at the outset. I prompt them to journey back to…where were you born? What did your parents do? What advice did they give that shaped who you have become?
Reflecting on my upbringing, I recall a period when societal expectations for girls were low. Yet, within me stirred a longing for a life without these constraints. This yearning was not solitary; my brother, Robert Fripp, and I were nurtured on tales of resilience and the power of words. Our mother recounted stories of World War II, highlighting how Winston Churchill, with his meticulously crafted speeches, could inspire a nation amidst adversity. These were not just bedtime stories; they were lessons on the impact of articulate and powerful communication. Unbeknownst to me, these lessons laid the groundwork for my career, emphasizing the profound influence of well-chosen words. My brother, a musician, is one of the most articulate speakers I have ever listened to.
Craft Your Narrative
Your life experience is a reservoir of unique experiences and insights. By mining you’re once-upon-a-time, you uncover a wealth of content that can enrich your speeches, making them memorable and deeply authentic. This technique is not just about storytelling; it’s a journey to understanding the essence of your communicative power. Your unique experiences will resonate with others and foster a connection that transcends the conventional speaker-audience dynamic.
For example, when discussing strategy, I asked my client, “When was the first time he realized the importance of strategy?” “When I was a 14-year-old ball boy before the French Open…”
Another question is, “How do you describe corporate citizenship to your children?” “It was the day after Christmas and I sat both of my children down…”
Another “When did you become passionate about statistics?” “In college. Our professor was a new PhD and we were his first class. When he began telling us…”
Another piece of advice I give my clients who need to inspire and motivate their associates is, “They will respect your title. They will fight in the streets when they see the person behind the position.”
As you embark on this exploration, remember that every experience, no matter how trivial it may seem, holds the potential to inspire, influence, and ignite change. Your once upon a time is not just your history; it’s the bedrock of your unique voice and perspective.
What is deeply personal is also universal.
“Thank you for making this the best presentation ever. For decades of teaching and coaching, which has been incorporated into my leadership style and presence. You are a gift to the world, especially to the APA and the thousands of lives you have touched. We are blessed to have you in our lives and do not take your generosity for granted!” – Linda Obertin, CPP, Senior Director, Human Resources, Global Payroll Lead, Hilton
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